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How To Set Healthy Boundaries

Having a good set of healthy boundaries for yourself is one of the most essential things to have in your life. They help to keep you safe mind, body and soul.

Because if you don't set a decent and clear set of boundaries, then some people get used to either crossing them, or just don't know where you nor they stand.

It's good for everyone.


Creating & Examples


First, we need to look at how we create a boundary. For example, let's say there is someone in your life that wants you to take on a different career. They make it clear that they want you to go a different path. If this is something that you can't see yourself changing your mind or if this is special in any way to you, then you shouldn't stray from it or leave it behind just because it's not what someone wants for you. If it's your dream or passion, stick with it!


So, for about a month now, you continue to go about your chosen career path and start making plans to achieve it. But this so-called person is still trying to push you into a different direction. Even though you told them time and time again that you weren't going to be persuaded otherwise. They overstep, like getting you job interviews with said person for a different job. Or put you and your dream down countless times.

Or they just keep doing things to prevent you to accomplish certain goals to your ideal career. The list goes on.


You have got to stand up for yourself and be set with a firm belief that you can do what you put your mind to. Don't bend or cave into other' wants for you.

You might have to be more assertive. And stand your ground.

I don't mean to be mean to this person. They might even have your best interest at heart and mean well. BUT be as it may, you should find a kind and strong way of telling them to back off. Tell them what it means to you. Sit down and really have a heart-to-heart talk. Help them see what it means to you.

Remember, you can be nice AND stay confidant in yourself and beliefs.


Boundaries Checkoff

  1. Stand firm in yourself and beliefs.

  2. let others know from the start where you and they stand.

  3. Don't cave into what they want if it goes against your better judgment.

  4. You can be kind and still hold firm.

  5. Don't second guess or doubt yourself despite negative things.

  6. If you see yourself leaning back and letter others take the wheel, sit up straight and take it back.

  7. Really try and explain why it matters to you.

  8. Make time for yourself to grow.

  9. Give others time too.

  10. Know that you don't have to rush into things. And you can begin again if needed.


Understanding.


There should be boundaries set in all areas of your life.

How people treat you. How you go about friendships or relationships.

How and what those boundaries are, that depends on you and your life.


I just hope that you know your worth and respect yourself to know what you deserve. And that's all the good things in this world!


Boundaries are a sign of self-respect and awareness. This even helps to strengths healthy relationships too.


I seen a quote that said, "I am not responsible for how people respond to my boundaries. I am responsible for setting and honoring my boundaries. If my relationships end because I set boundaries, it's a sign that the foundation was cracked. In healthy relationships, I can set boundaries without fear of retaliation, cut-offs, or manipulation." And I thought it hit perfectly with this post. sadly, when I found the quote, it wasn't credited. But credits to whomever wrote it.


The Why.


I wanted to write this article purely because I wanted to help others who may be wanting to learn more of such things or may be having trouble educating themselves and going about it.

If it did help you or if you just found it informative, in which case i hope it did. You can subscribe to never miss a beat of what's to come!

Until next time, loves. Xx. -A


Currently: Sitting in a dimly lit room, surrounded by notebooks for ideas for the blog, podcast and my next book. I guess I should probably turn a light on if I'm going to write any more...

A Lana Del Rey song, "Brookly Baby" is playing on though my earbuds as I type the ending to this. It's only 2:00 -ish and it already feels as if it's 6:00. Yikes. Looks like I'm going to need some caffeine, if I plan on staying productive. <3

And by the way, If you happened to have missed Friday's pod episode, here is the link,

Happy listening and have a traffic day!

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Heather Noire
Heather Noire
Mar 28, 2023

Being firm and standing your ground is so important in life itself and boundaries is a great topic to discuss here. I always find your posts a lot more interesting then not to name names… but some people just post outfit photos all day long and that can get boring after awhile. Your topics are a lot more relevant and interesting to think about and talk over. https://www.bauchlefashion.com

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AstriaMikaelson
AstriaMikaelson
Apr 19, 2023
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Hearing this has just made my day! Thank you! And I know what you mean lol. You have a lovely Blog and I always look forward to reading what you have! 💗

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